One thing that really grates on me is people telling me who I am, what I’m thinking and all the rest of the things they possibly couldn’t know unless they were God. I don’t understand how people can confidently say things about my character because they know one or two measly facts about my life.
I’m not going to lie sometimes people assuming they know you like that can be quite favourable e.g I like reading…so someone may say ‘Peda’s always reading, she’s so intelligent that girl’ in which case I’ll (in spirit) respond with gratitude. But most of the time it pans out like this – Peda goes to one rave and these types of people will usually say ‘Yeah she’s quite the party animal you know, like she’s at most raves…come let me show you this picture of her at Adrenaline’ (the one rave I attended the whole year!!!) These are examples and I did not attend Adrenaline however I do like reading so please feel free to think I’m intelligent.
The point I’m trying to make is ‘You don’t know me bisssh!’ *clicks fingers and flicks weave*
You cannot take a truth or fabricated information and create a whole story that aligns well with your perceived image of someone and then go and open your mouth and be telling people about another person’s character when you don’t know them. This is how, if you’re on the receiving end of this higgy-hagga story, you can end up thinking someone’s a cow when you haven’t even had one conversation with them and you’re already screwing them in anticipation that they may screw you.
I used to care so much about how I came across to people and I still do, but more in a way that I can be quite blunt and I’m conscious that just because I can take it doesn’t mean another can.
Anyway, whenever someone is trying to defame your character or you hear a cheeky rumour about yourself that you know isn’t true just remember ‘THEY DON’T KNOW YOU!’ They don’t. (And yes this may be the same ‘They’ that Khaled refers to.) Ignore the opinions of irrelevant people because there are too many of them in life. Get a core circle of friends and family around you that can vouch for your character and give you that reality check when needed – everyone else’s opinions are just white noise.
You have no control over how others perceive or feel about you but the one thing you do have control over is how you deal with their opinions. Be who you are and not who they want you to be and everything will be A1.
Remember: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” ― Bernard M. Baruch