The art of letting go is actually a difficult one to master and one I definitely haven’t, but I was exploring the topic so thought it’d be worth a share. Saying goodbye to the bad and the ugly and meaning it are two very different things. I actually find it amusing that when it comes to the opposite sex and letting go of a man/woman that’s no good for you’ll frequently hear the following quoted “I’m actually so done”, “Girl bye, I’m better than this” when we all know if he/she were to call you that evening you’d pick up the phone the same way and continue as normal. It makes you think, what will it take for you to truly let go? And why do we have to wait till we reach that limit in order to let go?
When something is negative in your life it’s draining. It brings you nothing but stress, heartache and confusion and all these things are counter-productive and not of God. What’s funny about human nature is that we usually know when something isn’t right but we do the most to convince ourselves of why this cannot be and even delude ourselves to think the situation is not as bad as it seems.
Listen to your head (or your heart – whichever deceives you less), listen to God, listen to Elsa and let – it – go!
What good has ever come out of keeping what’s not meant for you or what harms you?
I personally think pre-setting boundaries is vital in the art of letting go. One cannot predict the situations you’ll go through in life and the negative people or things that will come into our life, but knowing what you are and are not willing to endure as an individual is a great starting point. For example, if you’re in a relationship you may say I will not accept my partner having a relationship with another at the same time he/she’s supposed to be in one with me. Then if your partner decides to practice polygamy whilst being with you, you know that he/she gotta go!
Make the action of letting go your prerogative! When you make a decision by yourself, you’re more likely to stick to it. Don’t ignore the help of others in advising you of people/habits/things you should let go of but ultimately the decision should be yours. A lot of people feel like when they let go they give up when, in fact, they are two different things. Giving up is admitting defeat, surrendering and connoted with the feeling of despair whereas letting go is figuratively used to describe releasing your grip on someone or something in order to set it free. And who doesn’t relish in a cheeky bit of freedom? It is important to realise that some things are part of your history and others a part of your destiny.
Ultimately, let go and let God. Not every battle is yours to fight. Release your grip on the negative things in life and fasten your hold on what’s positive.
Remember: “Accept what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be” – Sonia Ricotti
“But forget all that – it is nothing compared to what I am going to do” – Isaiah 43:18